“家里日子过不下去了,你去找个工作”“不去,我要在家带孩子”

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We had a saying before this time, saying: Marry Han to marry, dress and eat. The literal meaning is that after a woman gets married, she does housework at home, and the man comes to support the family, and the woman does not eat and wear. I also heard this sentence from my grandparents' mouth. In fact, at that time, or a little earlier, ordinary families are not living a life of men and women, men go out to make a living, women are at home to teach children.

The current marriage and family life is basically not like this. Women have long gone out to work, most of them are economically independent. At that time, the mode of life and nature are not suitable now. So, this is said to be said by some people, but they are all jokingly talking. Once someone really thinks so and does it, then marriage will definitely have problems.

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Li Xu’s wife, Wang Xing, returned to her family for 2 weeks. He did not pick it up. He even felt that his wife was not there for two weeks. He was more relaxed. Wang Xing was a little bit unable to sit still, began to excuse the child, took the initiative to send him a message, called, he did not pick up. Because he felt that if this problem is not resolved, this day can't be passed, this time can't be so perfunctory.

A girl who is worse than him has lived for a lifetime. The fate is really wonderful. Li Xu once went to the city to have something. He met Wang Xing, who was robbed of the bag. He chased it up without saying anything, and he wrestled with the man. Finally, the bag was taken back. He was injured.The pieces are not bad. With this, Wang Xing’s parents will not agree to the daughter’s marriage to a rural baby.It’s not a problem, but Li Xu also gave us a gift in the middle. He also said that she insisted on marrying him and her parents for him, and said in her heart, she will do her best to be good to her, good for her parents. Li Xu also did this after marriage.

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xx那时候,虽然我没有买单独的婚房,但是两个2楼,结婚后李旭夫妻住在一边的两层楼,其实单身婚房没有区别。结婚后,李旭接手了家里所有的家务。他再次努力工作,并没有让王星这样做。这太忙了,但婆婆也来帮忙。

经过三个多月的婚姻,王星辞职,并表示要举起自己的身体为孩子做准备。虽然李旭觉得这样的生活费可能很紧张,但妻子说她想生孩子,她说她会让她过上好日子。不同意是不恰当的。然后王星开始过上好日子而不必在家休息。邻居经常对王星说,她真的很幸福,她的婆婆和她的丈夫都非常喜欢她。王星是一个自然的回答:嫁给一个男人嫁给一个男人,穿衣和吃,这是他应该做的。

每个人都认为她这么说,谁知道她是认真的。后来,怀孕,生产,直到孩子超过1岁,李旭和他的母亲非常好地照顾王兴。甚至王星自己的母亲也说,女儿的好运,怀孕和分娩,包括带孩子,都可以真正阻止她担心她。

孩子出生后,成本越来越高。王星已经在家呆了一段时间,慢慢开始喜欢买东西,经常买一些没用的东西。生完孩子后,有更多的理由为孩子买。每天都有一个快递回家。李旭的薪水对这个小家庭来说还不够。事实上,在孩子出生后这还不够,但他仍然有婚前储蓄,几乎无法支持。但现在储蓄也用光了,我的母亲在黑暗中贴了很多钱,她甚至不能使用养老金。

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李旭知道,随着孩子的成长,费用会更高。他真的别无选择,只能和王星讨论。我希望她能找到一份更轻松的工作并赚取一些钱来补充她的家人。结果,王星并不开心。他说他会带一个孩子。他说,李旭生小孩时不爱她。他说他说得不多。他说了一堆,但他不愿意去上班。

在李旭的母亲知道她不想让儿子的妻子吵架之后,她说她要么把孩子带回家,要自由做家务。她去兼职工作。王星也觉得她的岳母逼迫她,哭着说她的家人欺负了她。李旭有各种各样的舒适,并说他的母亲并不是这个意思。真是善良,然后孩子松了一口气,让奶奶接受它,让王星不用担心,他会努力工作几年,他会尽可能地努力工作。早点让她停止工作。

但王星仍拒绝。无论李旭说什么,即使她真的不能继续下去,她仍然不想工作并继续买东西。李旭的母亲再也受不了了。她秘密地带着儿子上班兼职。然后中午,她赶紧回去做饭做家务。在短短两个月内,她失去了一个圆圈。在王星知道这一切之后,他并没有感到痛苦和尴尬。相反,他仍然觉得他的岳母故意让她感到羞耻。

李旭终于忍不住了。第一次结婚后,他对妻子说了些什么。他们都为王星寻找工作而展开了激烈的战斗。在争吵结束时,王星说李旭没有兴趣,说:“没有养一个家庭的东西。我很开放让我找到工作。你带孩子吗?”我和你结婚了,一辈子都在吃饭和穿着,你应该忍受。当你一开始答应我的时候,它会让我过上好日子。现在是什么?收完几件衣服后,无论哭闹的孩子,都直接将门砰地关上回家。

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写在最后一句话:它应该是什么?什么承诺通过我?在婚姻中,丈夫和妻子必须互相支持,为这个小家庭努力过上好日子。有必要互相考虑,不要关心它,而不是对方所说的是什么样的承诺,而且必须保持不变。更有甚者,这个承诺,对方一直在努力,当你暂时不能做到这一点时,你必须明白,不胜感激,两个人一起克服小家庭的困难。

这不是一个问题,而是在另一方要求临时承诺时争辩另一方没有兴趣发言。仍然坚持保持原有的生活方式,为什么不妥协。然后,你之间的爱情将越来越少,最终在没有离婚的情况下消失。请记住,在婚姻中,对方对你的承诺就是对你的爱,你的支持和理解就是对彼此的爱。如果我们彼此了解,感激并相互支持,婚姻只能是长期的。